Happy birthday to all of us – it’s not about turning back the clock it’s about making the best of what we’ve got!

I’m really not one of those women who worries about her age too much. Sure, when I enter my date of birth on line and I have to scroll back FOREVER to reach 1970, it sort of registers. And as I gradually creep up the age categories in the Park Run that too stings ever so slightly. Also, I’m never quite sure whether the comment “Really? Are you that old? You don’t look it” is really a compliment or not. The older our eldest gets, the more obvious it must be that I’m no longer a spring chicken – not unless I had her at about 15.

That aside, I don’t stress about the latest line or wrinkle. I think that is such a rocky road to go down and can only lead to misery because one’s thing for sure, as we get older we’re going to look older – and that’s how it should be. When I saw recent photos of Jane Fonda looking not much older than me it really freaked me out. It was as if someone had preserved her in aspic since the 1980’s and had recently got her out to start living again.

Anyway, enough of the serious stuff, these are some of my thoughts on ageing…

Failing vision

Nothing ages someone more than holding text at arm’s length to read it.  When your arms are no longer long enough, then it’s time to take action. But not with half moon glasses that have to be peered over. They’re not much better! Equally two pairs of glasses doesn’t work that well either. “Where are my reading glasses, I’ve got the wrong ones on?” is a phrase I never wish to utter.

Memory loss

Ever get to the top of the stairs and wonder why you’re there? Or are you able to reel off the birthdays of your school friends but you have no idea what you had for dinner two days ago? If so you’re not alone. Both my friend and I are carrying a slight achilles injury at the moment and recently we had a conversation that something went like this…

“My achilles is really sore.”
“Mine too.”
“I remember you hurting yours before.”
“Yes, I remember you hurting yours too.”
“Can you remember how long ago it was?”
“No, not really.”
“Can you?”
“No, no idea.”
“Do you remember how you got it better?”
“No, I don’t. Do you?”
“No, can’t remember.”
“Shall we just keep on running then?”
“Yep, sounds like a plan.”

When you go to stand up

If you’ve been sitting down for a while, before moving a muscle to stand up, plant a great big fat smile on your face. There’s nothing that gives away an ageing body as someone standing up and going “oooh, ouch, ahhh.” Grin through the pain. Or alternatively don’t sit down for too long.


Grey or stray, they need to go. Dye them, pluck them, zap them however you like but they have no place in your life – or on your chin.


Please don’t ask me to go on a trampoline. Ever. And no self respecting aerobics teacher should ever ask a woman who has had children to do star jumps. That’s just asking for trouble. How many other women have you seen trying to do star jumps whilst keeping their knees together? Don’t the instructors get it?

The menopause

I’m not there yet and hopefully won’t be for some time, however it’s impossible to fight the inevitable – assuming that we are lucky enough to get there in the first place. I know that for some women the menopause is dreadful beyond words. My aim is to exercise and eat as healthily as I can through it. My husband may well find me lobbing a trainer at him for no apparent reason, or asking him to pass me the chia seeds before dissolving into tears but at least I won’t be throwing a packet of fags or asking him to pass me a bottle of wine. Maybe when I hit that stage he’ll be pleased that I like to run so much as it will offer him peace and quiet from the hormonal wailing banshee who has replaced his wife.

One last thought….it’s all in the mind

All those things that we never thought that we would do again – or at all – we should do them! Whether it’s shopping in Topshop, learning to ski, doing the high ropes, learning to swim or dive or starting to run, we should give it a go. Confidence is a huge issue as we get older but there’s no reason why we can’t still have fun too. It’s our spirit that keeps us young – not a line free face.


  1. clairemb12
    July 24, 2015 / 9:35 pm

    I'm 45 already (April) , so I get it.. it's great you are so positive and upbeat, you deserve to look as young as you do!.. xx

    • StyleGuile
      July 27, 2015 / 8:51 pm

      Hi Claire – we have to be positive don't we – and stick together too. I'm just so happy to be here when others aren't so lucky. Thanks for dropping by. x

  2. Sue Haigh
    July 25, 2015 / 5:55 am

    Great post Beth, I'll be 50 next year and I feel the same way as you do about ageing. Have a fabulous Birthday, keep on doing what you're doing, you look fantastic!

    • StyleGuile
      July 27, 2015 / 8:52 pm

      Hi Sue – Thanks for your comment and hope that you have some fantastic plans for next year. Good to hear that so many of us feel the same way about ageing – you look amazing! x

  3. Anonymous
    July 25, 2015 / 7:02 am

    Hi Beth, never commented before. Love this post and you look fabulous – athletic, trim and feminine. Happy Birthday.

    • StyleGuile
      July 27, 2015 / 8:53 pm

      Thank you so much for your kind words. I'm honoured that you felt like commenting! x

  4. Doris Eleanor
    July 25, 2015 / 7:14 am

    Just had my birthday too and stopping counting now. Agree it's how you feel about yourself that matters. You look great in this photo – Happy Birthday!

    • StyleGuile
      July 27, 2015 / 8:54 pm

      Hi Doris, happy birthday to you too! Stopping counting sounds like a plan. Thank you! x

  5. Heidi Martin
    July 25, 2015 / 8:35 am

    Love this – very inspirational!

    • StyleGuile
      July 27, 2015 / 8:54 pm

      Hi Heidi, so pleased that you liked the post. Thank you! x

  6. Anonymous
    July 25, 2015 / 8:08 pm

    Made me feel great about being forty something. Thank you! S xx

    • StyleGuile
      July 27, 2015 / 8:55 pm

      Hi S, so pleased to hear that. I reckon that being in your 40's and beyond is a pretty good place to be! x

  7. Nat Ruffel
    July 26, 2015 / 5:28 am

    Hi BethBrilliant post, my philosophy entirely, I'm 51 now and bang hit the menopause full on, it really is wired but sucombing to HRT has been a life saviour, plus the occasional half marathon or two. Happy birthday x

    • StyleGuile
      July 27, 2015 / 8:56 pm

      Hi Nat, thanks so much for your comment. It's really good to hear people's personal experiences about things that have yet to come my way. I may be in touch in due course!! Glad that the half marathons have helped – that gives me great comfort! x

  8. Jan McIntyre
    July 26, 2015 / 8:58 pm

    Happy Birthday! You do look fab for 45! I'm 50 this year and feel 30ish!! Feel fitter than I did then. 40s are fab!!

    • StyleGuile
      July 27, 2015 / 8:58 pm

      Hi Jan – thank you many times over and that's great to hear. I agree, 40's are fab – love having a bit of time and energy to devote to my fitness, unlike my late 20s to late 30s when I was on my knees with tiredness! x

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